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What Can I Do If I Am in an Abusive Relationship?Unfortunately, domestic violence is all too common in the United States and across the world. According to the data from the Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence, one in three women and one in seven men are victims of domestic violence. Many believe that women are the only victims of abuse, but this is not the case. Though more women suffer from abusive relationships, men are not excluded from this unfortunate reality. Abuse includes more than just physical violence against another person — there are many types of abuse and knowing the tell-tale signs is a good way to make sure that you are not in an unhealthy, toxic relationship.

Identifying Abuse

  • It can be difficult for those who are not in abusive relationships to understand why someone who is in one would remain in one. The emotional connection that one has with their partner, even if they are abusive, is often enough for someone to stay with a partner who does not treat them like they should. For some, they may not know the signs of abuse and think that they are blowing things out of proportion — no one wants to admit that they are in an unhealthy relationship, so some ignore these signs even if they know that they are there. The following are signs of an abusive partner:
  • Constantly tells you that you never do anything right
  • Discourages or prevents you from seeing your friends and family
  • Demeans, insults, or shames you consistently
  • Has control over your finances
  • Controls who you spend your time with, where you go, and what you do
  • Acts in ways that scare you
  • Intimidates you with their words or actions, including threats with weapons

I Need Protection

In many cases, ending an abusive relationship can be emotionally and physically difficult. Identifying that you are in a toxic relationship is the first step to moving forward, but rarely does an abusive partner let the person go based on their word. This can lead the abused partner into dangerous situations. In order to combat possible threats or violence, Illinois offers family or household members the opportunity to obtain orders of protection. Commonly known as a restraining order, protective orders may do the following:

  • Forbid the abuser from making future threats or abuse
  • Prohibit the abuser from a shared residence
  • Require the abuser to stay a certain distance away from their previous partner
  • Grant the abused party sole parental rights
  • Require the abuser to attend counseling
  • Prohibit the abuser from being able to access their child(ren)’s records
  • Require the abuser to give any guns or weapons to law enforcement

Call a Joliet Order of Protection Attorney

It can often take abuse victims months or years to recognize the domestic violence that is occurring in their house, and even longer to take action against their abuser. This can be the most difficult decision for abuse victims to make — turning against the person they love because their relationship is unhealthy. The best way to ensure that you are safe from your abuser is to seek an attorney’s help in filing for an order of protection. The Foray Firm is committed to protecting our clients and will help determine which path is best for your situation. For assistance obtaining an order of protection, contact our Will County orders of protection lawyers at 312-702-1293 to schedule a free consultation.


Understanding Illinois Domestic Violence Orders of ProtectionDomestic violence is all too common in the U.S. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, more than 12 million people experience some form of domestic violence in any given year. In Illinois, domestic violence is defined as any act of abuse that is perpetrated toward a family or household member. Abuse can be emotional, physical or sexual in nature. Domestic violence can occur between parents and children, step-parents and step-children, romantic partners, people who have a child in common, people who are married or were once married or people who live together or once lived together. Domestic violence can put the safety of everyone in the family at risk, but fortunately, there are steps you can take to protect your family.

What is an Order of Protection?

An order of protection is a legal order that can help protect victims of domestic violence. The order is given by a judge and can prohibit an abuser from doing certain things and likewise can order an abuser to do certain things or face consequences. An order of protection can:

  • Prohibit an abuser from committing any further abuse;
  • Order an abuser to leave his or her home;
  • Prohibit an abuser from being near the victim and his or her children;
  • Require an abuser to attend counseling;
  • Order an abuser to pay child support or spousal maintenance;
  • Forbid an abuser from removing certain personal property from his or her shared residence; and
  • Temporarily allocate all parenting time and responsibilities to the victim or another person.

Types of Orders of Protection

In Illinois, there are three types of orders of protection recognized by law: emergency orders, interim orders, and plenary orders. Each order typically lasts for different periods of time and certain orders cannot provide certain remedies.

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